Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Romans 12:19 KJV
Each time we hear stories of rape, child abuse, and all forms of societal evils that go on in the world today, our hearts quake at the wicked tendencies in the hearts of men. It is normal to get angry against the offender, seek justice or revenge, and desire that the offender be dealt a commensurate punishment on the face of the earth. It is actually appalling that most times we do not see justice served. Most times we see the offenders getting away with little or nothing.
However, in my post today, I do not seek to address the offender and his/her crime, but to address the offended- the one who is the recipient or victim of the crime therewith committed.
To every offense, there is a loss. A loss that to a large extent seems eternal and irredeemable. No matter how much justice is served, the victim has already suffered an “irredeemable” loss. This loss could range from loss of virginity, to forced pregnancy, to loss of life of a beloved one, loss of body parts, etc. Sometimes, these losses are much more psychological than they are physical. The sense of shame, fear, guilt and dirtiness that follows the victim of such wickedness leaves him/her in a pitiable situation, which no justice system can help. It is true that justice could even be served to the offender, but that will not really bring a closure to or repay the loss that has been incurred. It is seemingly everlasting, and many young ones carry such a loss throughout life. They imagine what their lives would have been had it been they never experienced what they experienced. They may try to forgive and forget, but whenever the reality of their loss is upon them, they experience that sense of depression, desperation and confusion coming upon them. Hence, they become sullen, angry, withdrawn, explosive and express all manners of emotional behaviours depending on their personality. To such people today I have a word from the Lord for you. Please read on.
The Lord says in His Word: I WILL REPAY. Now, we understand this to mean that the Lord will punish the offenders even if the justice system doesn’t, and that is true; but that is not the sense in which I am commending this Word to you. It is in this sense: Whatever you may have lost as a result of the abuse that was meted on you, whatever seeming irreparable damages that that rape, or fraud or whatever crime has left on you, charge it to my account, drop it at my feet, I will pay you back in full. It can never be an eternal loss. I will repay.
A few weeks back, I was talking with a sister who was trying to share with me her challenges in navigating life, schooling, business, etc., and when she finished her story, I was at a loss what counsel to give her or what encouragement to give her. So, I simply told her, “let us pray, let us bring this matter to Jesus.” So, as we were praying together, I heard in my spirit, “whenever you stand praying, FORGIVE!”
So, I stopped the prayers, and asked her if she was holding anything in her heart against anyone… At first she said no. So, I rephrased the question and asked her, “Is there anyone you will see today, and you will feel like had it not been for this man and the way he treated me, my life would have been much better and happier than this?” She paused for a moment, and then said yes. With tears, she told me the stories of her younger years living with her Uncle (who was married) and going to school. She was very brilliant and won a lot of opportunities to have a scholarship, but her Uncle (who was her guardian) refused to sign every necessary forms. So, she missed lots of opportunities, and that greatly affected her educational prospects as her parents were poor and could not afford to send her to school. She saw those she was better than get those scholarships and went further in life, but her Uncle stopped all her possibilities.
When she finished her story, I simply explained to her that she must forgive and let this matter go. The Almighty God has promised her that whatever she has lost as a result of her uncle’s wickedness, He (God) will repay. This extends on to whoever you are and whatever you have experienced or lost. The Lord says, “Charge it to my account. I will repay.”
However, you must be warned. You cannot get your payment back unless you charge it to God’s account. I’ve met people who have passed through terrible things in life, but because they turned over the whole issue (the whole blame) to God, their lives have been better for it, and they have come out stronger.
But I know others who are carrying about the badge of the hurt, injury, words, etc. that was spoken or done to them by one person or the other; and with each passing day, their lives become more and more miserable. It’s a matter of choice. What has happened, has happened. Mourning over it will not change it. Being angry over it will not change it, but if you will come before the Lord and say, “I let this go… I hand this over to You, Lord. I cease to be angry, depressed, or think that my life is finished because of this issue or that issue. From today, onwards, I take charge of my life, and I choose to trust You.” Trust me, if you do this, you will see the Lord’s hands helping you, and His Grace increasing mightily upon you. And surely, He will repay. Some of the payments will be made on earth, while some will be when you get to Heaven. But because His Word never fails, I believe, He will repay.