Then his father Isaac said to him, “Please come close and kiss me, my son.” So he came close and kissed him; and when he smelled the smell of his garments, he blessed him and said,
“See, the smell of my son Is like the smell of a field which the Lord has blessed; Now may God give you of the dew of heaven, And of the fatness of the earth, And an abundance of grain and new wine;
May peoples serve you, And nations bow down to you; Be master of your brothers, And may your mother’s sons bow down to you.
Cursed be those who curse you, And blessed be those who bless you.” Genesis 27:26-29 NASB
The birth-right event between Esau and Jacob passed, and everybody went own with their own businesses. Esau had eaten his stew, while Jacob had collected the ‘non-existent’ birth-right…. Or so it seems.
In this article, however, I want to talk to husbands and fathers…. Whether current or aspiring. I desire that you all will read this article with the utmost carefulness.
Isaac grew old as the days went on, and he was no longer seeing clearly. As a responsible father, he felt the need to pass on his inheritance before he died. Since the inheritance was not lands and properties, but a blessing; he summoned his first son, Esau, with the intention of passing on the blessing of Abraham to him.
Do you know that it was going to be more than 20 years from this blessing incidence until the actual death of Isaac. Yet, we saw this patriarch preparing himself for the possibility that one day he will be no more.
Death is a reality that must be; yet it is an irony that many fathers and husbands do not make any preparations for the possibility of their passing away. Hence, their exit from life’s scene always put their family in confusion and troubles. Even when some of them are on their sick bed, they keep believing God for healing (and there’s nothing wrong with that), but make the mistake of thinking that preparing for their death is a sign of unbelief.
I will tell a personal story. A week before my earthly father died, there was Church money which he had saved in a personal account as all his plans to open a corporate account with the bank were frustrated. As his sickness worsened, my father became acutely aware of the Dangers of his leaving this earth without unlocking that account so that someone else can have access to it. He put a call across to me with grave concern, and I had to travel down to my place to meet with him. With great difficulty, we were able to convey him to the bank where he was able to rectify some things in that account. The next Friday after that, he was dead!
Many husbands and fathers have secret accounts locked somewhere, as well as other issues which they do not settle. They keep postponing these things till death takes them suddenly. This is why many widows and fatherless children are in grave trouble; because of a careless father who never prepared for death. Take a cue from Isaac, dear husbands and fathers, prepare for your death! It is something that must surely happen.
The second issue is like the first. What was the inheritance which Isaac wanted to bequeath to his son? Lands? Properties? A Green card? A Havard education? None of these. The greatest asset he was going to give to his heir was A BLESSING. So, what’s in a blessing?
If you are a husband and a father, the greatest gift you have is your mouth. It is not your money, or your connections, but your mouth. Many fathers do not realize this, and hence they are careless in the way they use their mouth.
I consider one of the greatest last gifts I ever got from my Dad to be the blessing he gave me the last time I saw him on this earth. After we had gone to rectify the account, I was to go back to my base that Sunday. After I had prepared myself to leave (as his manner was), I knelt down and he blessed me. Because of that blessing, and all the other blessings, I cannot fail in life. Even if you put me in the middle of Sambisa forest, somehow, I’ll still be a success. The blessings of my father are worth more than a Havard education. I tell you!
But many husbands and fathers are careless about this. They never take out time to bless their wives and children. In fact, what some of them do best with their mouth is to curse their family. What a pity! Many wives are struggling and pandering in life because they lack the blessing of their husbands. So also, many young ones are struggling in life because they lack a father’s blessing.
You don’t have to be a fasting giant. You don’t have to know about dimensions and portals of Divinity. All you just have to be is a child of God who is a husband or a father, and that anointing is on you. Exercise it! Once in a while, tell your wife to kneel down (it’s not every time hugging and kissing). Let her kneel down properly and experience an old time husband blessing. Do the same for your children. Kneel them down periodically, not to punish, but to bless. And while you are at it, fathers, please do not curse. Remember you are Christians, and the word of God emphatically told us: “bless and do not curse” Romans 12 vs. 14b.
Thirdly, apologies that it is getting long… But please, read on patiently.
Thirdly, I suppose that there was a disconnect in Communication between Isaac and Rebekah, as well as between Isaac and God. From what God told Rebekah, the person that should have collected the blessing was Jacob, not Esau. I cannot tell if Rebekah communicated this to Isaac and was not listened to; or Rebekah felt that Isaac will not listen to him and so did not communicate it.
Many husbands tend to downplay the fact that there’s an acute spirit of discernment that the Almighty put in every woman. It may be enshrouded in emotionalism, but no successful husband dares ignore this. It is possible that Abraham would have sought to include Ishmael in the blessing if not for the protest of Sarah; and even that protest could have been ignored had God not confirmed to Abraham that what Sarah demanded is according to His Divine will.
If there had been this proper communication link between God, Isaac and Rebekah; he would not have made the mistake of wanting to give the blessing of Abraham to Esau, neither would Rebekah had had cause to resort to cheating and lying in order to get the inheritance to the right person.
I pray there are no Christian husbands reading this who has the mindset that ‘women’ (in essence, their wives) are morons who should not be listened to.
I pray that every Christian husband and father will learn to rise up to the responsibility of leadership in the home, which includes preparing for one’s death, blessing our families, and listening to God and to our wives.
May God give us Christian homes.