And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing wherewith his father blessed him: and Esau said in his heart, The days of mourning for my father are at hand; then will I slay my brother Jacob.
And these words of Esau her elder son were told to Rebekah: and she sent and called Jacob her younger son, and said unto him, Behold, thy brother Esau, as touching thee, doth comfort himself, purposing to kill thee.
Now therefore, my son, obey my voice; and arise, flee thou to Laban my brother to Haran;
Genesis 27:41-43 KJV
After Esau had pleaded and pleaded for a blessing from.his father to no avail, it became clear to him the gravity of what Jacob his brother had done. This quietly started the motions of deep-seated hatred against his brother Jacob.
He saw in Jacob one who had taken away from him what was rightly his own. He saw his brother Jacob for who he is – a deceiver. All the instances of what had transpired between Jacob and him came back to his mind; and the consequences was deep hatred and animosity against his brother.
Esau was angry because he suddenly was now seeing what he could have become were it not for Jacob; and this really disturbed him.
However, Esau failed to realize one simple truth: a man can have nothing unless Heaven gives it to that man. Esau failed to realize that his controversy was between he and God. It was not really about Jacob and how he could scheme; rather, there was an Eternal Being behind it all who is quietly pursuing His purposes despite human frailty and stupidity. Esau made the mistake that many people in our generation make today- he failed to realize that in the race of destiny, only two people are very crucial- GOD and I.
This was one of the principles I learnt quite early in life, that it is God and I. I once read an article with that topic that really blessed my life many years ago (click here to read it). Hence, I came to understand that I really don’t need to blame people for where I am and for the condition I am facing. In the equation of success in life and destiny, the two most important factors are God and I. The two people most responsible for wherever a man is in life is God and the man.
Esau did not understand this. He felt his brother robbed him of his blessing; not remembering that it was he who had despised his birth-right; and it was he who by his actions brought dissatisfaction to his father and mother.
Like most people today, Esau was quick to blame another person for his predicaments, but he was not willing to take responsibility for his own actions, and for things he may have done wrongly.
Thus, anger, hatred and the willingness to kill his brother became an overriding passion in Esau’s heart. He counted days until his father’s death so that he could kill his brother Jacob.
His mother, Rebekah, got wind of his plans and prepared Jacob to go into exile. She told him to go back to her father’s house and stay with her brother Laban until the anger of Esau subsides. She went and reported to her husband her desire to have Jacob marry from her home town, and not from the surrounding Canaanite girls (which Esau had already done).
And Isaac called Jacob, and blessed him, and charged him, and said unto him, Thou shalt not take a wife of the daughters of Canaan.
Arise, go to Paddan–aram, to the house of Bethuel thy mother’s father; and take thee a wife from thence of the daughters of Laban thy mother’s brother.
And God Almighty bless thee, and make thee fruitful, and multiply thee, that thou mayest be a multitude of people;
And give thee the blessing of Abraham, to thee, and to thy seed with thee; that thou mayest inherit the land wherein thou art a stranger, which God gave unto Abraham.
And Isaac sent away Jacob: and he went to Paddan–aram unto Laban, son of Bethuel the Syrian, the brother of Rebekah, Jacob’s and Esau’s mother. Genesis 28 vs. 1 – 5 KJV
This began the story of Jacob’s exile from his house, and he was never to return to that house the way he left; for by the time he returned to that house more than 20 years later, the God of His Fathers had wounded him thoroughly.
AND SO? May God deliver us from hatred and animosity between brothers, and may He help us to realize that in this race of destiny, it is ‘God and I’; hence, we should not be rushing to blame, hate and express anger against others, but rather seek the Lord over the situations in our lives to know what His will for us is.
Exiled from his home, the God of His fathers now followed Jacob, and began to do business with him. I pray that the Lord will shift someone reading this from his/her comfort zone, and begin a journey with such a person, in Jesus name.