Tag: Contentment

TAKE THAT LOSS (#mynoteonsuicide)

I was talking to a friend of mine recently concerning the matter of suicide, and I remarked to her that those who commit suicide are essentially ‘proud’ people. That statement drew a shocked expression from her face as I believe she wondered why I would be so ‘callous’ as to label those who kill themselves as proud people (though she never said her thoughts out). Now, I do not claim to be an authority on depression and all the other issues that may lead to suicide, and I understand quite well that there are people who suffer from depression as a sickness, not just because something bad happened to them, but because they have a disease called ‘depression’. Such depressions can be handled in a clean clinical manner, and I do not intend to make my essay bogus by attempting a study on them. However, since the matter of suicide is in the air, and most people who kill themselves draw a note of pity from us, and who knows, someone reading this post may attempt or contemplate suicide tomorrow; I intend to draw a consciousness into the minds of my readers that I believe will forestall any thoughts of depression. Though there are many reasons men may attempt to kill themselves, but I want to address those who may kill themselves because bad things happened to them, or something terrible (like poverty, rape, sickness, failure of professional exams, sack from a job, loss of money to 419ners, death of a loved one, falling into a moral lapse and being caught in it and exposed nationwide, etc.) befell them. As such cases may befell anyone, necessity is laid on me to address them. Bad things happen to all men, and truthfully there is no man on earth who may not…

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YEAR BY YEAR

I had a little cousin who I promised to get a phone for once she finishes her senior WAEC. Now, you need to understand that this promise was made more than 2 years ago as she was about to enter SS1. My little mind thought that by then I would have become a ‘big boy’ financially, such that getting a good android phone will not be a big deal. Now, she is already through with WAEC and writing her NECO, and trust little girls, they never forget. Now, I must confess that I am a little better off financially now than then, but I am shocked to discover that I am not where I thought I will be. But, my case is even better. For Hannah, it was a far worse story. Probably the first wife of her husband, she was said to be childless, and bore no children for her husband. Now, that would not have pained her most if she was her husband’s only wife. But, matters were made worse when her husband married a second wife, Peninnah, which bore for him, not just a child, but children. So, it was very clear that the problem was not with the husband, but with Hannah. Now, if you have ever been in such a shoe, you will know that there are special days when your lack or inability becomes more glaring on you. For Hannah, such days were when she goes to the temple for the annual feast. The fact that a large portion of meat went to her co-wife, and the fact that her co-wife teased and mocked her made her situation more glaring to her, and drastically increased her pain. While thinking on the passage as I wrote, the word quoted in vs. 7 of 1 Samuel…

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WHAT EXACTLY IS SUCCESS?

I will attempt to do something far beyond me, and that is to define SUCCESS. What really is success? What really would we see in our lives and then say confidently that we are successful? What would we see in others and say they are successful? A house in the village? Plots of land at Lagos and Abuja? A company of one’s own? A highly paying job? A powerful, wonderful car? Fame and worldwide recognition? What exactly is success? When Nelson Mandela died, people from far and wide, presidents and prime ministers came for his burial. I was highly intrigued and impressed by the retinue of people that attended his burial. Silently in my heart, I started wishing that I will make such impact in the world that when I die, US president, UK prime minister, and of course CNN and BBC will attend my burial ceremony. While the thought was going on in my heart, the Holy Spirit began to rebuke me. How many great men attended the burial ceremony of Apostle Paul? When Robert Hyslop of Bassa died, how many prime ministers attended his burial. When Pa G. Elton or Mary Slessor were being buried, how many awards did they acquire, and how many news media covered their burial ceremony? It got me thinking. What is life really all about? What will I do with my life that when I look back from my death bed or scene, I will say with such air of fulfillment like Paul, “I have finished the race”? And as I see how my world reasons, and even in the church, I watch as Mammon reigns. He sits enthroned as lord on our altars, while we keep on singing that only Jesus is Lord. What is Mammon? It is not just the ‘god…

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THE PATHWAY OF HAPPINESS pt. 2

In post on THE PATHWAY OF HAPPINESS, I insinuated that there is that which leads to unfading happiness and joy in life, and I called it “contentment”. Permit me here to reiterate a few things. Contentment is not a philosophical matter. It is not to say, “I have enough, so what else do I need?” It is a consciousness on the inside of you that your life is in God’s hands. As a result, you believe that everyday God is planning for you, scheming for you, orchestrating life to your favour. So, you are never under crushing pressure; though you may have a lot of burden on you, but there is this “knowing” inside of you that God sees, God knows and God will provide. This is the real meaning of being contented. It does not mean that you will not work, set goals, exercise yourself, etc, but that in all your labours, you do not forget that God is Judge- He lifts up one and brings down another. Permit me to belabour that matter a little. Do you know that promotion comes from God? Today, as I sat down in my church at Deeper Life, and I was just looking at Pastor W. F. Kumuyi, I imagined the number of people who are under his ministry (Deeper Life Bible Church), then I began to ask myself, “what did this man do to get this amount of people to sit under him in just about 44 years of ministry?” If you have ever been involved in grassroots church building (i.e to build an entirely new ministry/church from the scratch), you will know that you can preach, fast, pray and decree for 20 years and your entire church will be just about 100 people (off and on). What did these men…

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THE PATHWAY TO TRUE HAPPINESS

I have not fully been following news of late. Anyways, I’m not a fan of news that much, as I’d rather be on a message, than be up by early morning listening to news of this and that. However, one headline that has caused a buzz of late (apart from Big Brother Naija) had been the issue of a doctor who fell into a lagoon (or sea, or ocean, in fact, a water body) and killed himself. The issue that caused the matter to baffle many was the fact that this guy was a medical doctor (I mean you need to know that to be a medical doctor is not a day’s job), he had a car of his own (having been more than 5 years now as a graduate, and having seen life, bros, if you see anyone with car, please respect that person, -it is not easy to own a car in life o, even a beetle), he even had a driver! (My God, only God knows the decade I will get a driver in this life), yet he killed himself. Now, many people have started a “call-a-friend’ revolution, and I thank God for that. However, I want to present another side to the story. Why would he kill himself? He had a well-paying and secure job, he had his own car and driver, I mean, by all the dreams of an average young man, he was successful. I know that many of us look at our lives today and we are sad, unhappy, unfulfilled, discontent, and hoping that one day when we have made money, gotten a well-paying job, graduated from university, bought a car, married the woman of our dreams, and built the house of our dreams, we will be happy. Right now, we seem to…

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